Life is Like Coffee

I received a link to a short video clip from a friend.  Knowing where my passion lies and how I believe in paying it forward, I am sure that when he viewed this video he thought that it was something that would touch me as it obviously touched him.  There was nothing written in the email, just the link.

I now pass this link on to you and will let you do with it what you wish, take from it what you want and apply it where you feel it is best suited.

http://flickspire.com/m/Lgroup/LifeIsLikeCoffee?sms_ss=aolmail&at_xt=4cebef6d2800d120,0

 

Trying to Balance Work and Home Life? Time to Add One More Element!

Life can become complicated.  Much more than we would like at times.  When we are overwhelmed with work our home life can suffer and when we are overwhelmed at home the work life can suffer.  We all need to find a balance to not only keep harmony with those around us, but also with ourselves.    75% of the time stress is the reason for illness.  No one likes to be sick so it makes sense to do the things that reduce stress.   Balance is a key ingredient.

Balance by definition is : “To bring into or keep in equal or satisfying proportion or harmony.“   It can seem like a constant struggle to balance work and home, but let me add another activity that is vital for your well-being… leisure time.  Time just for you.  Time to exercise, read a book, take a walk, mediate, watch t.v., listen to music and do other things that are your alone time.   This time is not to spend with family, spouse or children.  It is your time to do what you want to do, love to do and enjoy doing.  Health professionals advocate at least three hours a week for personal relaxation and recreation.

Try adding a bit of leisure time to your routine and watch everything else slowly move into balance.  If you want to start right away, go to YouTube and do a search for relaxation meditation and listen to one of the wonderful musical selections.  It will only take you 10 minutes and you will feel great when done.  You may find that this quick break gets added to your daily routine.  Now dedicate some more time for your personal leisure.  You will look, feel and perform better at work and home.

Making Decisions and Problem Solving, Stress Relief

Problems, problems, problems.  We all have them and we all need to come up with solutions.  But how do you go about this task?  Do you rely on prior experience, make a pros and con list, procrastinate until the problem either takes care of itself because of your lack of action or do you pass the problem along to someone else and hope that they solve it for you?

The purpose of this entry is not to tell you things you already know, but to remind you of the tools that you have within your reach that you may have forgotten about.  When we were in school we learned all about the various problems solving methods, but somewhere along the way we fell into the habit of using the same method again and again. (let’s hope that method is not avoidance)

Stress is caused when we do not have a plan for solving the problems that enter into our lives.  Avoiding adds more stress.   Think of those things now that are nagging at you, keeping you up at night and what you are doing to take control.   It has been proven that the more stress we endure the less effective we are at solving our problems.   We can actually reinforce stress and thus make stress a habit.  Recall that a habit is “A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.” by not attending to the problem and reducing our stress we are making stress a habit in our lives.

There are numerous methods to solving problems.  Here are a few:

  1. talk  with someone you trust
  2. asking the five whys
  3. making a pros and cons list
  4. diagramming the problem,  i.e., -Venn , affinity, cause and effect
  5. SWOT and PEST analysis
  6. risk analysis
  7. flow charts
  8. appreciative inquiry

If you have forgotten any of these tools that are available to help you, you may just want to brush up on their concepts and add them to your own toolbox once again.

To a more peaceful life and better health, manage your stress!

If You Think Change is Happening Quickly Now… Wait

Listening to the guest speaker address a group of employees at their annual conference  two things that stood out to me.  1)  change is happening faster now than ever before and 2)  change will continue to happen faster and faster in the future.

I recall as recent as 5 years ago when a change in a company was discussed you knew that nothing would happen over night.  You went about your daily tasks until the next month Town Hall Meeting where an update would be given and a new time line for when the change would take place.  It seemed that there was always a wait while someone received word back from someone else.  Or, the proposed equipment change was delayed because of manufacturing or shipping.  With this type of movement you were eased into change.

Change is happening faster and faster and will continue to move at rapid rates.  We are now connected to anyone we want to be, need to be or have to be by technology.  I know for myself, I talk to my son on SKYPE almost daily.  I have a coaching partner in Australia where we interact either with SKYPE of another interface like VYEW where we can share our slide decks, whiteboards or documents for editing.  What would have taken longer via snail mail was quicken by using email and now more so my virtual collaboration media.

For those people who don’t like change or resist change the mere knowledge that change is happening more rapidly can send them into a state of panic or stress.  If you work with people who stress easily over change you may want to take small steps now to help them adapt.  Some things that may help are:

  1. have them sign up for one of the social media sites
  2. upgrade their cellular phone to the newer smart phones
  3. have them step outside their current comfort zone in an area now before change takes place
  4. assure them of where their support systems
  5. have them change one small routine each week/day.  Perhaps turn on their computer and then get coffee or try a different restaurant for lunch
  6. have them take a new way home or to work one day a week

We all know change is inevitable and the way we deal with change has a dramatic impact on how well we will adapt and move forward.

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